Monday, August 11, 2008

Book Review: The Five Love Languages

It took me some time to finally read The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate since it was written for those who are married. I highly recommend this book to every married couple and those who are engaged. In fact, I can pretty much guarantee that if I had read this book while still married, I would not be a single mom today.

Seldom do a husband and wife have the same primary emotional love language.

Looking back, I can see now that my ex-husband and I definitely were speaking different love languages and we never did learn each other's language. His love language is Acts of Service whereas mine is Quality Time. The others love languages, outlined by author Gary Chapman, are Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts and Words of Affirmation.

Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage.

If you are married, engaged, or know a couple who are preparing for a lifetime together, The Five Love Languages makes a great read and a wonderful gift to pass along.

Also by Gary Chapman:
The Five Love Languages for Singles
The Five Love Languages of Children
The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships

UPDATE: If you have read this book, please let me know in the comments how long you and your partner have been together. If you're not in a committed relationship at the moment, please let me know how (or if) this book changed your perspective.


Rachel said...

yep, I read. hubby read too. I know what his is and he pretends to not know what mine is!! It does help though. Offers a completely different way of thinking about marriage.

Suzanne B (Crunchy Green Mom) said...

I love this book. Being a single woman it's hard for me to look at the book from a married standpoint, however I can look at it from my past relationships.

I now know what didn't work, and it doesn't change anything, however it helps me understand what to look for in the future.

I understand more of how people interact with one another, and how they relate to each other out of love.

I would suggest it to anyone, in all relationships in their lives! Thanks for the review on it!

Abbreviated said...

Read some of his books, but not that one.

Heard it was helpful.

Steve Woodrufff said...

I've been married 27 years, and it's very true that men and women often "speak" and "hear" very differently when it comes to expressing love (and receiving it). This has been one of the most frequent topics of discussion we've had over the years, and I think we're finally beginning to get it!

A Good Husband said...

My wife and I (married 6 years) read the book together before we got married. It helped me a lot to understand that even if I'm saying something, if my wife doesn't understand it, it's because I'm not saying it in a way that is accessible to her.

HIP_M0M said...

I'm so pleased to hear from those who have been married and find it helpful! I'm eager to see what love language my son will have as he gets older. So far I think he's a physical touch type of kid (he doesn't want anyone touching him when he's mad).