Monday, September 1, 2008

Damn you, Ashley Madison

According to CEO Noel Biderman, the average man on Ashley Madison is in his late 30s or early 40s and has been married seven years, while the average woman is in her late 20s or early 30s and has only been married two. “The wedding passes, the bubble bursts, and women have fewer options,” he speculates for why female users turn more quickly to cheating. In general, the site tries hard to attract women, who only make up 30% of its user base. That explains its “female-friendly,” made-up name, which Biderman claims was selected to sound like a confidante to women (and perhaps to men like a mistress?). “Women have an easier time here,” he says. “They can sign up and have 20 men on their door no matter their age of appearance. Men are lower-hanging fruit.”
I don't even know where to begin.

I realize that there are dating sites for people with similar health concerns, religions, or backgrounds and that this one is no exception. Ashley Madison offers a way for people who want to have an extra-marital affair the opportunity to finding a willing participant.

From someone who has recently experienced the heartbreak of realizing her partner of one year is actually married, I do think that having an outlet for this type of behavior is much better than the alternative; having those who seek unsuspecting partners and interrupt lives and relationships with lies and deceit.

With their tagline of: Life is short. Have an affair., Ashley Madison will continue to grow in membership as people turn outside their marriage for answers rather than putting forth effort into enriching their partnership with the person they promised their future to.

Bottom line: Life is short. Being honest with yourself and with your partner(s) is worth it. Trust me.


Anonymous said...

This type of an "affair" opportunity actually encourages people to seek comfort outside of their relationships rather than to learn to seek ways to work through their current problems, remain faithful and determined to see a brighter future.

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