Saturday, August 9, 2008

Uncommon Goodies

I have always loved the unique and stylish gift ideas inside the Common Goods catalog so I'm especially pleased to share these great gifts:
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My Beating Heart Pillow

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Fruit and Vegetable Parchment Cuff
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Elephant Poo Paper Note Box
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Newspaper Market Bag

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Organic Cotton Teether Veggies

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Element Touch Lamp
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Magwear Magnetic Wristband
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Organic Cotton Remote Pillow Pocket

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Artist Series Tampon Cases

Friday, August 8, 2008

The Importance of Play

How much time do you set aside each day for play? No matter what your age - or the age of your children - play is vital to your health and longevity. With technology and medical research helping people to live longer than ever before, staying young at heart is just as important as staying physically fit.

Six types of play are outlined in the PsyBlog article that I recently discovered:
  1. Unoccupied Play
  2. Solitary Play
  3. Onlooker Play
  4. Parallel Play
  5. Associate Play
  6. Cooperative Play

"Through play children learn and practice many basic social skills. They develop a sense of self, learn to interact with other children, how to make friends, how to lie and how to role-play."
According to Mildred Parten, from the Institute of Child Development in Minnesota, "L
earning to play is learning how to relate to others."

Read more on play and how children learn to work together.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Parenting Mistakes

I don't know who Craig Playstead is, but I agree with his every insight in regards to the 10 Big Mistakes Parents Make:
  1. Spoiling Kids
  2. Inadequate Discipline
  3. Failing to Get Involved at School
  4. Praising Mediocrity
  5. Not Giving Children Enough Responsibility
  6. Not Being a Good Spouse
  7. Setting Unrealistic Expectations
  8. Not Teaching Children to Fend for Themselves
  9. Pushing Trends on Kids
  10. Not Following Through
As always, with reference to the mention of spouses, I've replaced this word with the word partner since we do need to be positive role models when it comes to our adult, romantic relationships (whether we're married or not).

What mistakes have you made? I'm guilty of many of these but since learning from our mistakes can help us in the future, as well as others, I am not afraid to be the first to confess.

Child, Sleep and Single Parents

What do these three things have in common: Children, Sleep and Single Parents.

Well, let's just say that single parents *most likely* get less sleep than parents with partners. I'm speculating here but I'd love to know what you think about this and the following articles:
  • 50% of Foster Kids are On Psychiatric Medications (The statistics they point to in this article are based only on reports from the state of Texas. I think this has much more to say about the programs run in that state than anything else...Can anyone point to stats on children in other states or nationally?)
  • Problems with Sleep Deprivation (I swear I didn't write in for this, but this easily could've been me as it describes me perfectly, and why I'm writing this at three in the morning.)

  • Will Companies Discriminate Against Children of Single Parents? (It frustrates me that the person writing this - and many others, I'm sure - assume that 'single parent' means parenting alone. I'm a single parent (aka not married) but my son's father is equally involved - if not more so than the stereotypical dad. But I don't generalize like the author of this article has.)
For more articles relating to psychology, visit the Alltop directory.

Tips for Spicing Up Your Love Life

Zen Habits provides great advice and healthy suggestions for living a more balanced life. While this list was created as a tip for those who want to create more passion and energy in their marriage (written by Corey of The Simple Marriage Project), I feel it is necessary to pass along these suggestions to anyone looking to spice things up in their current relationship:
  • Grow Spiritually
  • Learn to Live Complaint-Free
  • Live Passionately

  • Live Simply
  • Have Sex
  • Live in Community
For details on what exactly these suggestions mean and how to incorporate them into your daily rituals, head on over to Zen Habits...and tell them I sent you!

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Peanut Allergies & Bee Stings

My son got bit by a bee the other day. It was traumatic for both of us. Our neighbors came outside to see what all the screaming was about since my son was crying and shouting, "It hurts," over and over again for what felt like me to be over ten minutes straight.

He finally calmed down completely after about 45 minutes. The remedy that seemed to actually ease the pain was a penny. That's right. Good old Abe Lincoln was pressed to his bee sting on the tip of his finger and my little boy carried the lucky penny around the rest of the day - and part of the following morning, pressed to his finger. He even slept with it that night and somehow I found it before he woke up so I could prove to him that he did, indeed, have it with him all night.


His grandmother told us about this bee sting solution and although I was a bit leery at first, it did seem to work. I don't know if there is a medical explanation for putting a copper penny next to the swelling but the ice didn't seem to help and I couldn't bare to leave his side for those agonizing few moments after the incident.

Over at Daddy's Toolbox I read his experience with his daughter's peanut allergy and how she reacted and how both he and his wife reacted. I pretty much panicked too when I first learned that my son had gotten stung. He was just outside the front door playing with his friend and neighbor. I was inside when I heard his first scream but was there at his side seconds later. A mother has the powers of a superhero (as far as speed is concerned) when those painful sounds reach her ear.

After my son calmed down enough for me to think clearly, I went to the internet to search on symptoms of allergic reactions, just in case my son started showing signs. It turns out that he is not allergic but what I read on line disturbed me for the rest of the day since I learned that sometimes it takes up to six hours for symptoms to start to appear. You can bet I was anxious and more observant than usual that night.



I have introduced my son to peanut butter so I know that this is not a concern. But how does one manage when a new diet and routine is thrown into the mix of an already stressful time with young kids in the house? Let's face it, parenting is not easy. It's challenging and exciting and full of adventures.

I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

AT&T Fails Once Again

When did customer service become extinct?

I started working in retail back before I was old enough to drive. That was at the time when employees were actually trained in and customer service was the number one priority for most companies.


These days, I rarely experience great customer service and when I do, I make sure to share my experience with others. So too, do I feel compelled to share my not-so-great experiences, such as the recent catastrophe with AT&T.

The story starts two years ago when my husband decided to move out after filing for divorce. What he neglected to tell me when he started packing and found his new place of residence, was that he had our phone service transferred to his new apartment.

Suddenly, I was left without a phone (or a husband). I was bitter about many things for much too long, but it took me quite some time to get over the fact that AT&T was not responsible for leaving me "disconnected."

Fast forward to two months ago when my son and I were outside playing catch. A nice young man came by and asked if he could discuss the AT&T U-verse service plan that he was selling. Continuing with our back-and-forth game, I listened while he explained to me how I could get phone, cable and DSL service for a lower cost than I was currently spending on just cable and internet service.

We spent the next twenty minutes filling out paperwork and getting everything in place to have the installation scheduled. I was looking forward to having a land line, which I planned on using mostly for business.

I was heading out of town the following week so I had the installation scheduled for the weekend I was to be back. Since my life as a working mom with two jobs and a young boy keeps me pretty busy, the time I had chosen for the installation was ideal.

Two days before the scheduled time, I received an automated call from AT&T stating that they had rescheduled my appointment and they were going to be coming earlier than expected. Great, except that I had to be at work that day. I can't simply not show up for work. I had to give some sort of notice.

I called AT&T to reschedule the rescheduled appointment and I was told that they wouldn't have any openings available for at least another week. I really had no choice so I set up the appointment and made sure to give my employer plenty of notice that I'd be working from home that day.

Of course, no one ever showed up. Or called. After two days (I was too upset to call right away), I picked up the phone and calmly waited until a real live person was finally able to speak to me. I was then informed that someone could come out (for the third time, now) in just a few days.

By this time, I was getting ready for business trip #2 but my parents were going to be staying at my house to care for my son this time. I enlisted them to stay home that day to wait for the installation crew. Normally, I would never ask anyone to do this kind of a favor for me, but since I was having difficulty having the arrangement work, I didn't think there was an alternative.

Once again, AT&T failed to deliver. My parents called me that day to let me know that no one show up (big surprise) and that they had to call AT&T to reschedule. And, guess what? They never arrived on that day, either!

Needless to say, I had given up at this point. I didn't want to call to reschedule. I no longer wanted to save money or have the added convenience of a land line because they had cost me so much precious time and energy that I really wanted nothing to do with AT&T at that point.

Now, before I continue, I must say that my cell phone service is with AT&T but that's only because I originally started out using Cingular. I haven't had any bad experiences with my mobile service (knocking on wood), but I assume they're quite separate from the division that recently lost me as a customer.

Why am I sharing this story now? Because today I received a bill from AT&T for the month of phone service that I never used. I called the billing department and calmly shared my disappointing experience. The man quickly passed me on to someone else, who even more quickly (and without asking any questions), was able to cancel my phone service and credited my account for all charges.

You'd think that this would be the end of the story, right? That since there was no harm done (financially), I'd be thrilled to move on...

Wrong! I was more disappointed by the way the woman handled this than the fact that the installation crew never showed up when they were supposed to. Because the people who made the appointment were not the people who were to show up at my door, I felt as though there must have been some communication error or computer glitch.

The woman on the phone, however, was a real, live person. She heard my story (somehow it ended up being much shorter than this post) and never once apologized, did not ask me if I wanted to attempt to have someone come out again nor did she offer to make it up to me (not sure how she could have done that).

And what's worse? She read the required speech at the end of our conversation where she actually said, "Thank you for choosing AT&T." As if!

You Can Use This

This week's edition of Parenting News You Can Use (published by INCAF) is now available! This week's articles include:
  • Couples’ Communication
  • Talk to the Animals
  • Three Grin Salad
  • Temperament in Infancy Indicates Later Behavior
  • The Way We See It
  • Marriage: Connecting Deeply
  • Cholesterol Drugs and Children
  • Family Meals Provide More than Just Food
  • Nine Alternatives to Spanking
Don't forget to send me your questionnaire on sex. I'm seeking more responses so kindly forward this to anyone willing to help me prepare for my upcoming course on teaching sexual health and education to young people. Don't be shy. All responses will be kept confidential.

Vagina Festival: Only in NYC

Vagina Festival is a visual and performance art experience, organized by artist-activist, Alexandra Jacoby. It is an outgrowth of her project, vagina vérité®—an unabashed exploration of the plain, ordinary, mysterious matter of vaginas.



VAGINA FESTIVAL is an opportunity to have conversations we don’t typically get to have - in ways we don’t typically get to have them. Through visual art, performance, speaker presentations and interactive activities, Vagina Festival forms a welcoming space for exploring sexuality, body image, personal identity, health and well-being.

At Vagina Festival, we exchange ideas, challenge cultural norms and celebrate women. Their aim is to engage people by creating a fun, moving, thought-provoking experience.

Vagina Festival is made possible by generous sponsors and volunteers who are passionate about creating conversation. If you’d like to be a part of organizing and promoting Vagina Festival, go now to sign up.

October 24-26, 2008
Sage Theater
711 Seventh Avenue, 2nd FL
New York, NY 10036

Vagina Festival is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non profit arts service organization. Contributions on behalf of Vagina Festival may be made payable to Fractured Atlas and are tax deductible to the extent permitted by law. Donations can be made by credit card, or by check.

Monday, August 4, 2008

Must Love Kids on TLC

I've been wondering when this reality show would appear. Must Love Kids is a dating show for single moms. Three thirtysomething moms look for Mr. Right but he must be ready to jump into family life.



I haven't seen the show yet, but I'll be watching to see how things go. You can watch Episode One now!

If the show doesn't exploit the children, I might look into nominating myself for a future season. Unless there are any matchmakers out there...(hint, hint).

Healthy Living

Check out these articles, from Your Total Health:


I'm all about reducing stress, whether it's with caffeine or no work workouts. And with the heat wave lately, we're all dying for a little relief. What do you do to keep cool and to keep your cool?

Sunday, August 3, 2008

You're Invited!

These days, cell phones, MP3 players and even sneakers are stylish, personalized and technologically progressive. So why are online invitations so stubbornly stuck in the past? This simple realization was the genesis behind pingg. pingg begins where others leave off seamlessly fusing style, design and customization with robust delivery and management features.

  • Create an actual invitation, as opposed to a mere link to a webpage, by choosing from a variety of unique images that reflect your own personal taste, including our Designer Series. Or you can upload your own images for a more personal touch.

  • Choose to send invitations via ONE or ALL of pingg’s methods- email, print (pingg will print, stamp and mail the invitations to your selected guests), sms/text, or easily share it with your social network. By integrating online and print invitations, pingg makes it easy to reach your guests in a variety of ways, while managing all guest replies online.

  • Customize your event webpage by uploading photos or videos, writing longer personalized messages and attaching additional information about the event. pingg also has advanced features for gift & charity registries, money collection and ticketing.

  • Manage all RSVPs, lists, guest messaging, follow-ups, reminders, last minute changes and Thank You notes efficiently and easily from one place.

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Hullabaloo



Last March, the San Diego locals behind the Hullabaloo band put together a show at the North Coast Repertory Theater in Solana Beach. They had such a great time we decided to do it again on August 9th at 10:30 a.m.

Special guest, Joann Woolley, will start the show with a quick sign language class for kids and parents. Then, she'll join Hullabaloo on stage throughout the show to sign along with the music. A portion of the ticket price will benefit the American Society for Deaf Children.

Tickets to the show are $5 in advance and $7 at the door. To keep things safe for everyone please purchase a ticket for your child if they are of walking age.

Last time there were plenty of tickets available at the door but you never know...I'd hate to see you turned you away if the show sells out. To be sure you have a seat you can purchase your tickets online. You can have your tickets mailed to you or opt for the will-call list.

Check their online schedule for other events happening in the area or book the band for your upcoming birthday party or event.

Friday, August 1, 2008

I Dare You!

This morning, I logged in to Twitter (isn't that what we all do while the coffee's brewing?) and noticed a post by @lilfootsmommy that said simply, "Challenge me."

I was intrigued. I felt like I was back in junior high and someone across from me just chose Dare during a round of Truth or Dare.

So, I challenged her. Alright, so this isn't exactly a crazy, off-the-wall feat that I've challenged her with but knowing how I felt about running - before I actually started running - I thought this was a good idea. I challenged her to buy a pair of ishoes (big sacrifice, I know) and run her little butt off (she mentioned wanting to lose weight).



Since I felt it only fair, I also mentioned that I'd take on this challenge myself to see how much weight I could drop before my Las Vegas trip next month. Not that I am in a competition with her, mind you, I just want to have a running buddy - so to speak - to keep me motivated and to help inspire me with her tales of success.

But wait --- What if Lil Foots Mommy is a marathon runner? What if she's reading my response right now and rolling her eyes at my "challenge?" God, I totally feel like I'm in junior high again...

I'm picking up a pair of ishoes for myself, either way. Ever since I heard @guykawasaki talk about them I've been meaning to purchase a pair. It's on my to-do list for the weekend. Oh, and since Guy spoke at Stanford, I thought too about purchasing a bike since I grew pretty attached to the one I rented for my 8 days on campus - another challenge to be made!

Gotta run...

Lichen Sclerosus

It's been a long time since I thought about the rare disease that I have. I don't actually like to think of it as a disease, but rather a skin disorder.

I'm not contagious, there is no cure, but it is under control if I follow my doctor's instructions. Luckily, there are also websites and support groups for those suffering from this unusual condition. I don't think there's been major drama in my life due to lichen sclerosus but it does sound a lot worse than it really is and perhaps I'm one of the lucky ones that isn't as affected by it as others might be.

If you, or someone you know suffers from this chronic skin disorder, the following websites offer more information:

FOUNDATIONS & SUPPORT GROUPS:
TREATMENTS & MEDICATIONS:


The websites mentioned were found through Organized Wisdom, a human-powered, physician-guided search service for health.