Monday, August 17, 2009

That's Not Fair

We all know that life can be unfair sometimes, but explaining this to a child can be difficult. After all, we want to protect our children and their innocence as long as possible but letting them know that they can't always expect things to go their way, or win every game, is a part of growing up.

I took my son to Legoland a while back with a neighbor of mine. Her son is a year older and so, when we reached the Volvo driving school, we froze as the lines separated the kids into different age groups. One line was for those 5 and under, the second line was for kids 6 and up. This was going to be difficult to explain, or I thought.

My son and I stood in line with the 5 and under crowd while our friends went and stood in the line with the older kids, a line which was much longer than ours. By the time my guy was finished driving, we found them, still in line along the other track. My son was convinced that he was going to drive over there too and, while I thought about explaining to him, one again, that he wasn't old enough, I figured I'd just wait and see what happened when we reached the front.

When it was "our" turn to go in, the Legoland employee made sure to ask each child their age. My son, who up until that moment was excited about driving again, looked her dead in the eye and said, "Five and a half."

At this tender age that precious half is so important that it didn't even occur to my son to lie about such a thing. She looked at me (as if I were the one trying to cheat) and let us know that he wasn't able to drive on that track. She directed us to the other side (like we didn't know about it already) as my son took it all in stride. No crying, no temper tantrums, no complaining. And me? I was so proud of him for handling it so well. If only us adults were so calm - and honest - under similar circumstances.


SteelyDad said...

It sounds like your son is mature beyond his years. He has a high EQ, which is much more important than IQ (in my opinion). This will serve him well in the years to come. Great blog and thanks for finding me on Twitter!

Anonymous said...

Hi Sondra,

Many readers of your blog may have vague recollections of themselves at age five.

Mine was my dinner habit of telling my mother little white lies about certain veggies I hated which were carefully placed on my younger sister's dinner plate. Of course, Mom caught me and made me promise that I would never lie to her again.

Your son obviously prefers truth over lies and is a credit to his generation!

BTW, you also found me on Twitter, with my thanks!

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